There is nothing that adds to your beauty as a person like Confidence & High-Self Esteem.We all must have stumbled upon some tips on how to increase our confidence but below are a few i have gathered most of which are from personal experience/observations, Pretty much what i remind myself every now and again!
1) Never Compare yourself to Others:
I know its tempting. "But she's more eloquent in speech", or "She's wayy prettier, I don't even stand a chance" etc However the form of the comparison, just don't do it. Every Single one of us has one thing that the other hasn't got. One thing more or less than the other, But that's okay. The competition is not wirh others but with yourself. Just like you shouldn't compare yourself with someone else to think they are better than you in some way, you must not think you are better than them just because you've got something they dont. I read a quote once, it says;
"Confidence is not walking into a room with your nose in the air thinking you're better than everyone else, it is walking into a room without feeling the need to compare yourself with anyone in the first place".
You begin to lower yourself the moment you start comparing yourself to others. Don't do that. Please.
2) Do whatever You do for the right reason.
Whatever it may be. Could be something as simple as giving a smile or a helping hand. Giving a speech or advice. Know why you're doing it. And let that reason not be to gain the praise and acknowledgement of others. You need to realize that you don't have to prove anything to anyone. You don't need anybody's validation. If you're doing something good, do it because it's good, because it makes you a better person. And if you're leaving something shameful, leave it because it makes you a better person too. Whether you get praised or acknowledged for it, it doesn't add or reduce a thing to your value so that should not be the purpose, neither should it be the focus.
3) Never Compromise Your values/principles.
Being able to stand for what you know is right regardless of who's standing with you goes a long way in boosting yourself esteem. For nothing in the world should you compromise your values. If it's right by you, then don't let anyone talk you into changing your stand. Like Jane Austen Says in her famous book Pride & Prejudice;
"Laugh as much as You want, but you will not laugh me out of my opinion". So don't bulge or compromise because of the opinions of others, neither should you be a crowd follower; unless ofcourse, they are going by your own principles too.
4) Don't Condemn, Mock or be Rude to others.
Some people think by putting others down they are lifting themselves higher up. That's so untrue. Your value would not increase by one bit if you put others down, rather you would even gain by even lifting them higher. "Rudeness is the weak person's imitation of strength" for a truly strong & confident person will find no need to camouflage by being rude and condemning others. This is not to say you must agree with everything you see. But there are ways to criticize if you must and almost always, it is not what you say but how you say it that makes the whole difference.
To be continued...
Written by Fatima Adam
1) Never Compare yourself to Others:
I know its tempting. "But she's more eloquent in speech", or "She's wayy prettier, I don't even stand a chance" etc However the form of the comparison, just don't do it. Every Single one of us has one thing that the other hasn't got. One thing more or less than the other, But that's okay. The competition is not wirh others but with yourself. Just like you shouldn't compare yourself with someone else to think they are better than you in some way, you must not think you are better than them just because you've got something they dont. I read a quote once, it says;
"Confidence is not walking into a room with your nose in the air thinking you're better than everyone else, it is walking into a room without feeling the need to compare yourself with anyone in the first place".
You begin to lower yourself the moment you start comparing yourself to others. Don't do that. Please.
2) Do whatever You do for the right reason.
Whatever it may be. Could be something as simple as giving a smile or a helping hand. Giving a speech or advice. Know why you're doing it. And let that reason not be to gain the praise and acknowledgement of others. You need to realize that you don't have to prove anything to anyone. You don't need anybody's validation. If you're doing something good, do it because it's good, because it makes you a better person. And if you're leaving something shameful, leave it because it makes you a better person too. Whether you get praised or acknowledged for it, it doesn't add or reduce a thing to your value so that should not be the purpose, neither should it be the focus.
3) Never Compromise Your values/principles.
Being able to stand for what you know is right regardless of who's standing with you goes a long way in boosting yourself esteem. For nothing in the world should you compromise your values. If it's right by you, then don't let anyone talk you into changing your stand. Like Jane Austen Says in her famous book Pride & Prejudice;
"Laugh as much as You want, but you will not laugh me out of my opinion". So don't bulge or compromise because of the opinions of others, neither should you be a crowd follower; unless ofcourse, they are going by your own principles too.
4) Don't Condemn, Mock or be Rude to others.
Some people think by putting others down they are lifting themselves higher up. That's so untrue. Your value would not increase by one bit if you put others down, rather you would even gain by even lifting them higher. "Rudeness is the weak person's imitation of strength" for a truly strong & confident person will find no need to camouflage by being rude and condemning others. This is not to say you must agree with everything you see. But there are ways to criticize if you must and almost always, it is not what you say but how you say it that makes the whole difference.
To be continued...
Written by Fatima Adam